When I joined my first online dating site 4 years ago I expected it would be something like the commercials on TV 相睇公司. They would send me matches of nice guys who were looking for the same thing as me. Boy was I wrong.
I have met some great guys online and made some wonderful friends. But in order to get to those guys I had to weed my way through emails from guys like “toysoflove69”, “Themilkman”, and “hardride”. More than half of the emails I receive from my “matches” are looking for one or two night flings 香港婚姻介紹所推薦. Get past these guys and weed through the rest and maybe at the end of the month I will have one man I would be willing to meet in person.
It amazes me the number of guys who use bad pick up lines or try to jump right from the website to the bedroom match agency. One such introductory email I received said, “Take me for a test drive, ride me like you stole me. What have you got to lose?”
At times I have been tempted to reply to these men and ask if this really works? Are they really getting dates? Or more likely just getting laid by women with low self esteem.
Even if a man makes it past the first email it doesn’t mean he will make it much further.
I once replied to a man that at almost two hours he lived too far away. I thanked him for his email but politely declined to pursue anything further with him. His reply was “You stupid b^%#h two hours isn’t that far I don’t know what your problem is”. I have to wonder if he thought that would change my mind or he just doesn’t handle rejection well. Either way, clearly not a man that would have made me happy.
I think my favorite “match” was from the man who in his introductory email admitted to being 40, living in his mothers basement and was a cashier at fast food chain. In his profile picture he was wearing a Bevis and Butthead t-shirt. He also admitted (right there in his profile) that he was looking for a girlfriend because his mother was kicking him out of the basement. As a college educated women I find myself wondering how did anyone ever see him as my “match”?
Honesty is very important in any relationship. But sometimes when trying to get to know someone online there is such a thing too much information. I don’t need to know everything about your ex before I know anything about you. I also don’t want to hear about your terrible job, troubled finances, why you don’t see your kids because or your criminal record. A lot of these men need a therapist not a girlfriend.